Let's Explore Another 'Hood
We've explored motherhood and wifehood and kitchenhood a bit. What do you think about exploring womanhood?! :)
What is your favorite part of being a woman? I think that mine would be that I can be emotional (in a good way). I'm not too keen on the emotional-in-a-bad-way thing, but thank goodness I'm not always emotional in that way. :)
I like being able to be emotional in a good way because it helps me to empathize with those around me who are hurting or excited or... Another one would be that I get to be domestic! I feel so accomplished when I'm able to make something from scratch and say that I made it. :) Even better is when my husband comes home to a homemade meal and I feel such a wonderful sense of accomplishment.
What is your favorite part of being a woman? I think that mine would be that I can be emotional (in a good way). I'm not too keen on the emotional-in-a-bad-way thing, but thank goodness I'm not always emotional in that way. :)
I like being able to be emotional in a good way because it helps me to empathize with those around me who are hurting or excited or... Another one would be that I get to be domestic! I feel so accomplished when I'm able to make something from scratch and say that I made it. :) Even better is when my husband comes home to a homemade meal and I feel such a wonderful sense of accomplishment.
posted by Heidamos @ 12:44 AM
4 Comments:
At 9:51 AM,
equichick8 said…
Sorry I have not been around lately. Computer crashed and a friend's wedding was cancelled. Talk about being a woman! When I heard the news about my friend, I shook all over and felt like I was going to throw up. I tried to remind myself that I wasn't the bride, but I kept thinking of how both the bride and groom felt and my emotions took over.
But even with such a reaction, I agree with you Heidi. The emotional parts of being a woman are cool. I wrote something in my little quote book one day and I still like it because it describes something important to me. "love, like chocolate, is best bittersweet." If we don't have big lows, how can we fully appreciate the big highs?
Now I admit this is a little "out there", but it has merit to a degree. (I believe a different degree for each one of us).
As for sense of accomplishment, well... I think I get that every time I finish a job or reach a new level of achievement. Like when I get the bathroom cleaned, or when I can finally walk three miles (average speed) and not feel exahusted.
Being a woman is great!
Another thing I love about being a woman is the fellowship with other women. Nothing in the world can top that.
And Tamber, thanks so much for all your comments to my comments/postings. It's neat getting to know you! I look forward to more postings and advice from you.
-adina
At 11:53 PM,
Anonymous said…
I don't know if it's too late to continue this discussion, but I was reading your entries and some thoughts came to mind...
Some may disagree with this generalization, but as I see it men tend to be task-oriented and women are relationally oriented. (I'm not sure that's the correct way of stating it but hopefully you get what I mean).
My husband used to tell me I should have a hobby- to which I would reply: "sleeping is my hobby". (I have 3 boys- ages almost6, 3 and almost 2). Then one day I told him "my hobby is spending time with people". Our tendency as women to be emotional is just a side effect of being relational in our orientation. It is our strength as women. Susan Hunt says in her book Spiritual Mothering..."Our femaleness gives us the capacity to nurture and to be nurtured. We bond easily because we have been created with relational strengths".
The challenge in marriage is to learn to appreciate the differences between men and women. After nine years of marriage, I have accepted the fact that my husband will not always understand me. He isn't required to read my mind or to know what I want without me telling him. 1 Peter 3:7 tells husbands to "be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life...". It used to bother me to be called the "weaker partner". Then one day a friend described it this way...
"Women are fragile, they are more vulnerable. If a group of guys are hanging out and one guy does something stupid someone might say 'Man your an idiot' and they would still be friends. If a gal says that to one of her friends, no matter what the circumstances, they wouldn't be talking for months!"
Our weakness is our strength! We are more emotional, we are more vulnerable, and we are ready to nurture.
One more thought. Recently I came to the realization that I struggle with letting my husband become an idol. I want him to provide me with a level of security and happiness that only God is meant to fill. Repenting of this has allowed me to find new confidence as a woman. It has also made me less emotional (in the bad way):)
At 3:39 PM,
Heidamos said…
Thanks for your thoughts Charissa! I'm not able to respond or comment thoroughly right now, but I'd love to later. :) Thanks for what you said about your struggle with letting your husband become an idol. I have done the same thing and was very encouraged by what you said. I've been talking to God about that just a little bit! I have some ironing to do and a peanut butter and jelly sandwich (yum!) to eat! Gotta go for now! Talk to you again soon!
At 12:36 PM,
Anonymous said…
When I rely on my husband to provide my security and happiness I find myself constantly demanding things of him that are not reasonable. I become emotional if he isn't being the husband I think he should be. My emotions can range from anger to depression. Maybe an example would help. I remember struggling with feeling ugly (especially right after having each baby). I would then try and force by husband to tell me that, no matter what I looked like he would always be attracted to me in the same way. This of course completely ignores the fact that men are very visual- and that is the way God make them. I didn't even want to think that he might look at another woman and find her attractive. I wanted him to believe that "I was the most attractive woman in the world!" :) The irrational path that hormones can take you down is really scary! In reality, a husband who loves the Lord will choose not to lust after another woman and that choice NOT to give in to temptation IS one way he shows his love for his wife. I wanted him not be tempted, that was an impossible demand. If I look to God first to satisfy my longing to be loved then it is much easier to accept the fact that my husband will be tempted and even fall at times. When he comes to me and asks for forgiveness, I have the power to freely forgive him without any grudge because I have been so freely forgiven. When the love of God rules in my heart then it controls my attitude toward my husband. The "emotional in a bad way" I was referring to, was the way in which fear and insecurity were controlling the feelings and actions in my attitude toward my husband. God's "perfect love casts out fear".
Does that help?
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